Vedic Methods : Survival from Relationship Breakup

Vedic methods:  When you have No Choice then to accept your break-up:

Try Completion - One of the Vedic Method.

Based upon knowledge of completion I attained from Sri Nithyanand Swami.
 

Problem :
It hurts when some body leave us. and we find ourselves rejected for the most sensitive feelings of ours. We give the inner most place to someone in our heart, and when they reject us, it shakes us completely. We enters into self consciousness, doubt, anger, frustration, grief and ultimately powerlessness. We are not able to accept the fact that breakup has happened.  Following are the major incompletion one carries in such a situation.

• Incompletion 1 : You created an intense possibility of your love relation to happen, You are completely involved in love, looking forward to a better future all together,   But all of a sudden next person tells you s/he is done and walks out. All your dreams remain incomplete, all possibilities you were involved in gets over abruptly.
• Incompletion 2:  You are shocked,  You want to know what happened to the other person why all of sudden s/he is  moving out.. You ask but you don't get any satisfactory answer.  All you hear is a No and they simply go and you don't know what to do ??  
• Incompletion 3: Then you enters into a new phase where you start thinking that perhaps breakup is not real,  Your heart decide to reject the fact.  Your Trust , that other person loves you,  shakes completely. You realise that you have been rejected because of No fault of yours, you start feeling guilty, not loveable, start having doubt on yourself, you can't understand why other person have rejected to love you, while you are living your best with him/her. is there something wrong in you?  
• Incompletion 4: You don't find any thing wrong in yourself and then You start thinking on the other possible reasons. You start attempting what ever comes in your mind, But the next person does not listen and keep on walking away.  you run behind them again and again , some time scold them, cry in front of them , beg or plead to them, for listening to you.. But the person continues moving on..  And s/he doesn't turn back... You don't know what next to do ...
• Incompletion 5: Once you realise the next person have gone and you are left alone, you look around and realise that others were watching you when you were running behind them.  Then you start feeling self conscious." what others would be thinking about me? " .. You start thinking that other would be thinking you are mad, as the next person was not interested yet you were running behind.
• Incompletion 6: Now you don't know what to do ? when you look behind, all your dreams left incomplete for ever, when you look around  you find yourself surrounded by people's eyes, and when you look at that person.. S/He are already walking away from you. , when you see in front you find nothing for yourself.

 You don't know where to go or what to do . You gets onto  your knees and cry your heart loud. but there is no way out. After some time you have to move on. But you don't know where to go. Few people cant take the stress and are hospitalised, Few tries to kill themselves. Most of the people tries to get involved in work, so that they can keep the thoughts away. Yet it become difficult to get rid of these thoughts.

Solution:

Yes !!  Completion :  One of the Vedic Solution.

Vedas 

Auspiciousness of Vedas is that if you seek a solution from them, they never let you live in any depressing situation, Vedas do not treat you on surface.. Vedas heels you and transforms you. Vedic solution is going to be the most simplest and most basic solution, which will gradually take you into its lap and slowly place you into your happiness with proper heeling which is required.. Not even a line of that impression would remain in your being.  After all these bad phases in your life , recover yourself from this situation. and rescue your being. Use Vedic techniques of completion to rescue yourself.
 
What to do  :  Complete
From the Vedic knowledge we have derived and pointed out above incompletions which generally hits a person in case of a breakup. Simply complete from each and every incompletion you have.

1. Do Not Resist "Your Initial First Response to Yourself" in this situation.

Remember when ever you enter into a situation which is harmful for you, your body automatically starts coming out from that situations. Do not resist your body movements or your intense feelings. It is only your mind which think and sets you back into unwanted situations. So do not resist initial response of your body. Continue them until you feel it is sufficient.  if it continues for more days, let them. But do not hurt yourself or others fatally during this process

2.  Complete from Broken Dreams and Fantasies
What returns back again and again are previous memories. You remember your dreams and fantasies again and again. Complete with that.

Method to complete: 

• Every night take a mirror and look into it.
• Remember all those good or bad moments  which you have spent with that person.
• Let your body free to show the symptoms. like crying, speaking to yourself, laughing, fearing, or what ever .
• Once you feel finished, chant Om, and Shanti, Shanti , Shanti . with few deep breath and sleep.
• Repeat this processes for few nights until you find that your body and mind are no more responding to those thoughts. Normally with in 21 days you will be settled in peace.

3. Take your own responsibility
Take your own responsibility to save yourself from this situation. Keep yourself protected Take responsibility to fulfil  all your dreams or goals you have thought for yourself. Vedas provide wonderful principles of AIRE, Unclutching, Yoga , Kriyas and Sutras to help in this phase.

AIRE principles from Veda:
http://www.youtube.com/user/LifeBlissFoundation

Stress Management  Kriya can also be found at
http://www.artofliving.org/sudarshan-kriya

This is my first blog. I may not be perfect in writing. Please feel free to check back.
Thanks.

Always Live your Inner Beauty.
Nithyanandam !!


Note :

How it work:
Your initial responses are the initial stress bursting mechanism of your body. It will first settle you from shocking state. Second , it can make your body tired which eventually will set your mind into thoughtless. This is surrendering to the situation , which reflects back in your recovery.

The second step , recovers you from old memories, which  returns back again and again. which makes you feeling empty and missing the person. It also brings your strength back. It normally happens that even if you are out of suffering normally, when ever you feel low due to other reasons, these old memories come back and hit you. Second step gradually finishes the tendency of getting trapped into old memories while in low timings.

The third step AIRE, sets you back into action. It makes you  fulfil all your commitments which you have made to yourself and others. It also take you out from the feeling rejected, anger, and sets you frictionless. AIRE is so powerful that even if you meet this person again, S/He would regret her/his decision to leave you. would like to be your friend, but you  probably wont entertain them again.


How To identify initial first response.
It will not hurt you fatally. It may either be crying or any of your hobby. It may be some sports or intense activity which sets you stress free regularly, may also be sleep. It will not demand your attention or energy, it will be spontaneous. .

 

Examples of First Response

The first responses can be like crying, sitting on the knees, slow walk, closing your eyes,   If  you are sitting on your knees and crying your heart loud.. continuously cry until you feel sufficient. If you want to run faster and faster do that, If you want to kick or punch the boxing beg .. what ever. If you have supressed your initial responses and you are still struggling with yourself, complete your stress bursting mechanism.

Note:

Remember attempt to suicide, damaging yourself or others are Not the initial response of your body. These are the responses of processed thoughts.  Similarly opting for alcohol is also a processed response.  For example :  Those who attempt to suicide,  they think first,   like " I cannot live with out you , so let me die " or " Every thing got over why should I live"  or "If I will attempt suicide, you will get to know how much I love you" etc.   In all these examples , person is thinking and suicide is always a second thought.  Here your first body response will not be thinking, so there is no question of second thought. So beware of the processed thoughts , Just first body response is to be followed.

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